Ask Kristy: Transexual Questions and Answers
Welcome to my forum where you ask the questions.
I’ll answer your questions the best I can. Please submit your questions and I’ll select some of those along with my answers to be published here.
I don’t always have time to respond to every question individually, but I do so when I can. Nothing is off-limits here. If you have always wanted to know something about shemales or transsexuals, but didn’t know who to ask, give me a try.
Mark from San Diego asks, What is the difference between a shemale and a transexual?
Kristy: Oh Mark, you need to know that most of us hate the term shemale. It is a term that seems to have originated in the adult porn industry. I think most of us TS girls feel the term is rather degrading. If you don’t believe me, go into a transgender chat room and watch for the occasional guys who enter and start asking where the shemales are. They are usually flamed or ignored entirely. Most of you know that a transsexual is a person who feels intensely that they were born the wrong sex, do not identify with their biological gender and seek reassignment therapy including hormone replacement and sometimes gender reassignment surgery. Transgender is a term that has gained increasing popularity over the past 15 or so years. It encompasses a broader group of people on the gender continuum. It is true that some of us TS girls don’t mind being called shemales, but be cautious. Some transgender girls will become downright nasty, considering it an insult to be called a shemale. When you don’t know what someone prefers to be called, it is possibly best to simply refer to them as transgendered until you can politely ask what they consider themselves to be. Internet marketers, and indeed this site, find themselves using the term shemales whether they like it or not, because it is such a popular search term. So you see, it all boils down to personal preferences when you’re dealing with someone from the transgender community. Labels can be a tricky thing to apply. Sometimes it’s best to let others choose what label they prefer.
Jake from San Jose asks, Is Kristy your real name, and do you go by other names in your adult videos?
Kristy: Hi Jake. Kristy is not my real name, but it is a preferred stage name. I use a couple variations of the spelling including Kristi and Christy. I love the name. I’ll just say that Kristy is fairly close to my given name.
Monica from Jacksonville asks, Can you still have orgasms when you’re on female hormone therapy?
Kristy: This is a frequently asked question in most of the transgender forums. The answer may vary from person to person but in general, the higher the female hormone dosage and the longer you have been on them, the more difficult it is to achieve orgasm. This doesn’t mean it is impossible, but it does tend to become a more time consuming task. I found that achieving orgasm requires that my mind be in the right place. I can no longer reach orgasm based on physical stimulation alone. It isn’t the same and it isn’t as easy, but orgasms are still worth the effort for me.
Big Bob from New Castle, DE asks, Are you romantically involved with anyone at this time?
Kristy: I have been keeping busy with a hectic work schedule that has me traveling a lot. I don’t have a steady lover, although there are a couple people I hook up with now and then. One of these days I dream of settling down with that special someone and living happily ever after… (sigh).
Luis from Las Vegas asks, Do you intend to have surgery to complete your transformation?
Kristy: Luis, I really haven’t decided the answer to that question. I suspect that I will not have surgery though. I have adapted nicely to a female role and I am on hormone replacement therapy. I am happy with the changes I have achieved, but never was so eager to forge ahead with surgery. I have often considered surgical gender reassignment as an option, but so far, I’m content with life and I enjoy myself as is.
Leeza from Boston asks, Do you date guys, girls or both?
Kristy: Hi Leeza, I primarily date guys, but I’ve been known to date a girl or two, and I’ve also dated other TS girls, but that tends to get kind of confusing. You’ll find that transsexual girls each have their own preferences. While I consider myself to be bisexual, many consider themselves to be straight, gay or lesbian. It’s about as clear as mud, huh?