Currently I am trying to find myself and what my life looks like moving forward as I was recently widowed. Prior to that I dabbled with dressing off and on over the years but had given it up for the most part until earlier this year. Since then, I have been dressing regularly. I have asked myself often, is this a coping strategy, an addiction, a fetish or who I actually am? Probably elements of all those.

I maintain a very private life with this and have no intentions of that ever changing, so discretion is a priority, as is my health and wellbeing. I exercise daily, enjoy reading, music, and being Heather on the weekends. I am not looking for a "quick fix", but quality over quantity. I need to get to know someone first, as the connection, chemistry, attraction and trust must be there before anything else for me.

I want someone who values the importance of taking care of themselves, physically as well as mentally, enjoys conversation, respects others as well as themselves. I am attracted to intelligence but not arrogance, physical fitness but not self-worship, a conversationalist but also a good listener. I am looking for a friend and a lover.